Ellecia Paine Coaching/Beyond Compare: Cultivating Self-Love and Unleashing Confidence for Non-Monogamous Women

Stop Letting Comparison Run the Show in Your Relationships

You're not too much. You're not falling behind. You're just stuck in a cycle you were never meant to be in. Let’s change that.

Beyond Compare is an 8 week recorded group coaching program for non-monogamous women who are ready to stop spiraling, start trusting themselves, and finally feel secure, confident, sexy, and loved in the relationships they chose.

Sound Familiar?

  • You want to feel confident in your relationship choices… but your nervous system hasn’t gotten the memo.

  • Every new connection your partner makes hits you like a punch in the gut—even when you want to be cool about it.

  • You’re exhausted from comparing yourself to metamours, exes, potential partners, or everyone your partner smiles at.

  • You’ve read the books, tried the communication scripts, and still feel like something’s missing.

Here’s the truth no one tells you:
Comparison isn’t just a mindset thing.
It lives in your body. In your survival wiring.
And it won’t shift until you do.

That’s why I created Beyond Compare.

This isn’t a surface-level “be more confident” pep talk. This is where your healing actually begins.

Inside this 8-week recorded group coaching experience, you’ll:

✅ Learn how to interrupt comparison spirals before they take over your whole day
✅ Build unshakable self-trust so you can make choices in alignment with your actual values—not your fear
✅ Turn jealousy into insight—and clarity into confidence
✅ Communicate your needs without guilt, shutdowns, or performing "cool girl" energy
✅ Tap into embodied self-love that feels grounded, powerful, and real

And you’ll do it all surrounded by women who get it. No need to explain or justify your relationship structure—we’re already there with you.

What’s Included

  • 8 Group Coaching Calls (Recorded, 90 minutes each): Real talk. Real transformation. Real-time support.

  • Somatic Tools + Healing Practices: Move stuck emotions through your body—not just your brain.

  • Mini-Lessons + Journals: Quick, practical, and powerful prompts to guide your breakthroughs.

  • Private Community: A cozy corner of the internet where you’re not “too much,” “too sensitive,” or “not evolved enough.” You’re just… you. Finally.

🎁 Bonus surprises (because who doesn’t love a little unexpected magic?)

Investment

$444 or 2 monthly payments of $222
(Only 10 spots left—because this space is intimate and intentional)

Real talk, babe:

You are not broken. You are not failing.
But if you’re tired of fighting the same battles in your mind, your body, and your heart...
Let this be the moment you stop shrinking and start shining.

Your confidence isn’t hiding—it’s waiting to be unleashed.

You don’t have to keep waiting for the day you finally feel okay.

That calm, confident, secure version of you?
She’s not a fantasy. She’s already in there—she just needs space to breathe.

This isn’t about becoming someone else.
It’s about remembering who the hell you are—before comparison, fear, or old stories got loud.

When you have tools that support your body, your heart, and your voice?
Non-monogamy stops feeling like a constant test…
and starts feeling like a soul-expanding adventure.

You deserve relationships where you don’t have to perform.
Where you don’t compete to be chosen.
Where your needs aren’t too much—and your love is never too big.

Let’s make that life real.
Let’s build it—together.

Feel Secure, Sexy, and Unshakably You—From the Inside Out

Introducing the SACRED Confidence™ Method

The SACRED Confidence™ Method is the heart of Beyond Compare—a clear, powerful framework to help you stop spiraling in jealousy and start living from deep self-trust.

Beyond Compare isn’t just coaching. It’s a full-body reclamation.
My signature SACRED Confidence™ Method walks you step-by-step through what it actually takes to stop comparing yourself to everyone your partner dates, to quit questioning your worth, and to finally feel confident AF in your relationships.

S – See Yourself Clearly

Let go of the outdated rules and stories that say you need to earn love. This is where we strip it all back and meet the real you—no filters, no shame.

A – Anchor in Self-Love

You’ll build a love for yourself so solid, it doesn’t crack when things get hard. We’re talking daily practices that make confidence your default, not your performance.

C – Connect to Your Sensual Power

Your body isn’t a problem to fix—it’s a source of magic. Reclaim your sensuality as fuel for confidence, connection, and creativity.

R – Rise Through Boundaries

No more boundary collapses. You’ll learn to hold what’s yours, speak your limits with love, and stop abandoning yourself to keep the peace.

E – End the Comparison Spiral

This is the shift: from “Why her?” to “Why not me too?” We’ll rewire the way you relate to others, so your confidence isn’t built on being better—it’s built on being you.

D – Devotion to Body + Desire

You’ll learn to listen to your body, honor your pace, and follow your deepest wants without guilt. Because your pleasure, needs, and intuition belong at the center of your life.

Why It Works:

This isn’t about quick hacks or mindset fluff. The SACRED Confidence™ Method is built to heal the root causes of your spirals: insecurity, comparison, people-pleasing, and disconnection from your body. It works because it’s real. It’s embodied. And it gives you tools that actually change how you feel—about yourself, and about love.

No More Second-Guessing

Let’s be real—nothing drains your energy faster than overthinking every conversation, every agreement, every tiny shift in tone.

In Beyond Compare, we strip all that noise away.

You'll walk away with crystal-clear clarity on:

  • What you want

  • What you need

  • What’s a yes, what’s a no, and what’s a hell no

You’ll stop shrinking or spiraling in your relationships—and start speaking from your truth with confidence and calm.

Because when you know your boundaries and desires inside and out?
You don’t just talk about your needs—you embody them.
And that’s when your people start rising to meet you.

Why I Created Beyond Compare

I was at a fancy hotel ballroom, surrounded by sexy humans, sipping a margarita, and thinking…
“Why the hell are we all still comparing ourselves to each other when we’re this amazing?”

Seriously—I've seen it too many times. Brilliant, badass non-monogamous women shrinking themselves.
Thinking, “Am I enough?”
Or worse, “Am I too much?”

That night, it hit me hard:
We were never taught how to feel safe in our own skin while loving more than one person—or being loved by someone who does.

So I created Beyond Compare.

Not just as a coaching program—but as a home base.
A space where women like us can drop the shame, the comparison traps, and the nervous system chaos—and finally come home to ourselves.

Because here’s what I know:

  • You can feel sexy, secure, and grounded while your partner is out with someone else.

  • You can want love and still be fiercely independent.

  • And you can stop trying to earn your worth, because it was never up for debate.

I’ve lived non-monogamy for almost a decade—and coached hundreds of women through the same messy fears and glow-up moments I’ve had.

I’ve cried. I’ve grown. I’ve screamed into pillows. I’ve healed.
And now, I help my clients do the same—with way fewer breakdowns and way more breakthroughs.

Beyond Compare is everything I wish I had when I was deep in the comparison spiral.
It’s a reclamation. A revolution. A sisterhood.

And if your heart’s pounding a little reading this?
It’s probably your turn.

Frequently asked questions

You’ve got questions. We’ve got answers.

How long is the program and what’s included?

It’s an 8-week guided experience that includes:

  • 🌀 Weekly recorded 90-minute group calls

  • Somatic healing tools to release jealousy and emotional stuckness

  • 📖 Mini lessons + journals to explore your boundaries, desires, and self-worth

  • 💬 Private Online community for support between sessions

  • 🎁 Bonus resources to deepen your growth (think meditations, guided practices, surprise magic)

Miss a live call? No stress. You’ll get the replay uploaded on Podia so you can catch up anytime.

Who is this for?

Beyond Compare is for non-monogamous women (and non-binary folks raised as little girls) who are:

  • Tired of feeling like they have to compete for love or attention

  • Wanting to feel confident, grounded, and connected in their relationships

  • Craving tools that go beyond mindset and actually help them feel safe in their body

  • Done performing “cool poly person” energy and ready to be authentically themselves

Whether you’re new to non-monogamy or deep in the lifestyle, if you’re still battling comparison, insecurity, or low-key spirals—this is your space.

What if I’ve tried other coaching programs and they didn’t work?

Honestly? That makes you perfect for this.

Most programs stay surface-level. They hand you scripts and strategies—but don’t address the root stuff living in your nervous system, your stories, your survival patterns.

This one does. Because we’re not just trying to “cope”—we’re here to heal, rewire, and thrive.

Is there a refund policy?

Yep. Here’s the deal:

If you show up, do the work, and still feel like you didn’t get anything from the program, I’ve got you. After completing the full 4 weeks, just email me within 30 days and we’ll talk through your experience.

If it truly wasn’t a fit, I’ll refund you. No hard feelings.
I want you to get what you need—whether that’s from me or someone else.

Testimonials

 

“This program has been nothing short of transformative. The inner child class? Mind-blowing. It cracked something open in me I didn’t even know was locked. What I loved most was how we worked through real-life stuff—not just theory. I finally learned how to break down my thoughts, manage what’s coming up, and actually apply tools that work. On top of that, being surrounded by others going through the same growth made it feel like I wasn’t alone. I’ve grown SO much—and I’m only just getting started.”

Morgan

Ellecia has a deep well of lived experience that is invaluable for couples thinking of opening up their relationship. No matter what we brought to session, Ellecia totally got what was coming up for each of us and helped us understand each other's experiences on a deeper level. She also gave us simple, super-effective tools to help us build trust, better communicate, and to regulate our nervous systems when intense emotions arose. Finally, her light-hearted and joyous presence made it so we actually wanted to do the practices and show up for sessions! 

Ann H.

I learned to not push past my own boundaries, but to feel into what feels aligned for me. To slow down and to feel more comfortable in the uncertain. To recognize that there's not an end destination but relationships are fluid and to learn how to build safety in that fluidity. 

Conquering Jealousy Client

anonymous

She taught me so much about myself. Reassured me when the whole world around me felt shaky. She helped me sit across from my husband and gaze into him for a long long time, and that was the most exquisite feeling. We found our way back to our center and Ellecia Paine was equally our guide, friend and coach. Please call her. It will improve your relationships.

Jennie

It was amazing. She really helped me understand the origins of a lot of my negative thoughts around relationships and heal some deep wounds. The work  empowered me to love myself, know that I am enough, and step into the qualities that allowed me to pursue the meaningful romantic relationships that I’ve so deeply desired for so long. I cannot possibly recommend her highly enough to express my gratitude for the work she led me through ❤️

Jessica L.

  • $444 or 2 monthly payments of $222

Beyond Compare: Cultivating Self-Love and Unleashing Confidence for Non-Monogamous Women

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This isn’t just about learning how to handle non-monogamy.

It’s about loving yourself so deeply and fully that you stop needing external proof to feel okay.

It’s about showing up in your relationships with presence, power, and peace.

It’s about knowing you’re not in competition—because no one compares to you.

I’M SO EXCITED You're Here!

Hi! I’m Ellecia Paine, a sex, love, and relationship coach specializing in ethical non-monogamy and alternative relationship structures. I want to help you build the relationships you’ve always wanted. 

I love helping adventurous people break the social conditioning of monogamy and learn how to navigate healthy alternative relationship styles such as ethical non-monogamy, open relationships, polyamory and swinging. I'll help you move through the challenges like jealousy, fear, anxiety, and insecurities in a way that strengthens your relationships, deepens trust and communication, and leaves you feeling confident and secure.

I believe in courageously challenging the status quo and empowering people to create relationships that work for the real people in those relationships. Throughout the past 9 years living in an ethically non-monogamous relationship while working as a sex, love, and relationship coach, I have acquired valuable insight and a unique ability to share this information with my clients and audience in a way that hits home while leaving them feeling validated and whole.

Got questions or feeling a little stuck?

Let’s figure it out together. Message me directly with the chat bubble—no pressure, just clarity. Or email me👉