Ellecia Paine Coaching/Breaking Free from Monogamy - 3 Months of Life-changing Coaching

You get it.

You see all the benefits of non-monogamy—but maybe you’re not exactly feeling them right now.

But what if I told you…

You can step into unshakeable clarity and confidence in your choices and agreements.

Imagine feeling so aligned and secure in your relationship structure—whether it’s open, polyamorous, swinging, or something uniquely yours—that you know, without a doubt, you’re keeping yourself and your partners safe, supported, and wildly fulfilled.

Imagine the possibilities! 🖤

Breaking Free from Monogamy - 3 Months of Life-changing Coaching

Are you ready to break free from societal norms and embrace a non-traditional approach to relationships? If so, you've come to the right place. Welcome to "Breaking Free from Monogamy," where we offer evolutionary coaching to support you in designing a life that aligns with your authentic self. We're heading on a life-changing journey towards living authentically, I am here to support you every step of the way.

DOES NON-MONOGAMY FEEL AS EXCITING AS IT DOES TERRIFYING?

ARE YOU AFRAID YOU’RE RISKING IT ALL?

❔Do you secretly wonder if your partner will find someone else—someone who seems to “get” them better, someone with more experience—and leave you standing there, questioning everything?

❔What about the judgment? If friends or family find out, will they jump to the worst conclusions? Will they think you’re on the verge of splitting up, or worse…cheating?

❔And let’s be real—does it feel like opening this door could unleash something you’ll never be able to contain again?

That dizzying mix of fear and excitement—fearcitement—can be overwhelming. You know that feeling…like stepping onto a rollercoaster, taking that leap from a plane, or speaking your truth in a room full of people. It’s the thrill of freedom and the terror of the unknown, all tangled together.

For those who are already open and exploring non-monogamy, it can feel just as intense. Are you walking a tightrope, wondering if each new connection will disrupt the balance?

Are you questioning whether it’s possible to evolve without losing what you’ve built?

Does each “yes” come with a pulse of fear about where it might lead?

You crave this freedom, this path, but there’s that nagging worry that wanting it too much could risk everything you’ve built.

You want this for yourself. You can see it in your mind’s eye. But that fear of losing your person? It’s intense.

I’ve been there!

I know what it feels like to step out of the “socially acceptable” relationship box, heart pounding, wondering if you’re doing something crazy. I know how exhausting it can be trying to explain yourself to friends who just don’t get it, who look at you like you’ve lost your mind when you’re only trying to follow your truth.

When I decided I was done with monogamy, I thought that decision alone would magically give me confidence. That I’d somehow outgrow my jealousy, insecurities, and possessiveness overnight. Spoiler: it didn’t happen.

I was out here, wanting to have it all—the freedom, the love, the new experiences—without any of the hard stuff. DAMNIT, I WANTED ALLLL THE GOOD THINGS WITHOUT the fears, the pangs of jealousy, the doubt creeping in late at night.

If you’re feeling this mix of excitement and “WTF am I doing?”—trust me, you’re not alone.

HAVE YOU STARTED READING ALL THE BOOKS AND LISTENING TO ALL THE PODCASTS, BUT IT FEELS LIKE THEY ARE TALKING TO PEOPLE WHO HAVE DIFFERENT CIRCUMSTANCES FROM YOU?

That was totally my experience. I found a lot of information that felt like it was written for people who wanted different types of relationships from me or were in a different place in life from me. I felt like I had to translate it all to my particular situation and hope I didn’t fuck it up.

I did all this work and research and practice so that you don’t have to! I’m here to share it all with you and make it specific to YOUR relationships.

Doing this work led me to feeling soooo secure in my relationship while also enjoying all of the juicy, fun things that I wanted out of having an open relationship.

I learned how to navigate all the big feelings that came up, like feeling jealous of the other people my partner would date, and the huge fear that I would be abandoned for someone who was a better match for him, and the guilt I felt over wanting to have all the fun but not wanting to “share” my partner.

And on the flip side I learned how to hold space for my partners feelings that were similar, but also very different from my own. 
My clients have come to me at many different stages in their relationships, but what they all have in common is that they are navigating a transition. Whether you are just starting to talk about opening up, have been talking about it for years, or if you have already begun in the last year or so, I’m here to give you personalized support to take the trial and error out of this adventure.

Like J. who opened her relationship to casually play with her husband and a friend. When all the feels started to form I helped the three of them navigate what that would look like without following our social standard of needing to choose between two loves, without anyone becoming broken hearted.  

Another client, A., was going back and forth with their partner. Open, closed, open, closed, what are we even doing here? We worked together to create a deeper sense of security and a clear vision for where they were headed in their relationship. One of them wanted the occasional sexy fling while the other one wanted to really know the soul of anyone they got intimate with and this was creating turmoil that they couldn’t have predicted until they were in over their heads. 

These kinds of stories are so normal and common and together we can navigate the flow so that you can have all the fun you have been fantasizing about.

Breaking Free From Monogamy WILL TEACH YOU…

◽How to get clear on EXACTLY what you are doing and why so that you can avoid arguments and mistakes.

◽The agreements and boundaries that MUST be in place for the security of your relationship.

◽Exactly how to talk to your partner about your desires and fears so that you can be on the same page and work together on your shared vision for the future.

◽How fast or slow you “should” be moving so that you don’t leave each other in the dust.

◽The things you never would have thought of until they were creating a problem and causing fights.

◽How to solve the problems you’ve run into without “closing” the relationship

◽The most missed steps when opening a relationship so that you can avoid the mistakes most people make when opening up.

◽Sexual safety essentials in non-monogamy and how to communicate them so that you can stay physically safe.

◽Exactly how to talk to potential/new partners 

◽The Who, What, When, Where, & Why of ENM

◽Everything you thought you already knew about consent, but actually didn’t

◽How to navigate your different desires from your partners desires

Breaking Free From Monogamy: Evolutionary Coaching for a Non-Traditional Life Includes:

6 Powerhouse Coaching Sessions over 3 months: This is one-on-one, tailor-made coaching for your journey. Forget cookie-cutter advice—this is about your needs, your desires, and your vision. You’ll walk away with a plan that’s designed to light up your life, no compromises.

Tools That Stick with You: I’m giving you the skills to set boundaries like a pro, communicate at a soul-deep level, and transform old patterns into rock-solid security, trust, and pure passion. These aren’t just relationship tools—they’re life tools, reshaping everything from the bedroom to the boardroom.

This is for You Because…

You’re not here for surface fixes—you’re here to create a foundation that keeps your relationship alive and resilient. Whether you’re trying to save a relationship that’s already open or take the leap without triggering disaster, you’re ready for real guidance, real support, and real solutions.

This is for you because...

you want to experience the freedom and depth of an open relationship without losing what you’ve already built. You’re determined to prevent the pitfalls, avoid the hurt, and make this journey one that brings you closer, stronger, and more connected.

This is for you if...

you’re tired of holding your breath, wondering if it’s all about to fall apart. You’re ready to move from uncertainty to unshakeable confidence, from anxiety to deep trust, so you can embrace non-monogamy with the security and clarity you both deserve.

This is for you because...

you know that love.... real, fearless love... takes work, but you also know it’s worth every ounce of it. And you’re ready to make it happen.

I’M SO EXCITED You're Here!

Hi! I’m Ellecia Paine, a sex, love, and relationship coach specializing in ethical non-monogamy and alternative relationship structures. I want to help you build the relationships you’ve always wanted. 

I love helping adventurous people break the social conditioning of monogamy and learn how to navigate healthy alternative relationship styles such as ethical non-monogamy, open relationships, polyamory and swinging. I'll help you move through the challenges like jealousy, fear, anxiety, and insecurities in a way that strengthens your relationships, deepens trust and communication, and leaves you feeling confident and secure.

I believe in courageously challenging the status quo and empowering people to create relationships that work for the real people in those relationships. Throughout the past 9 years living in an ethically non-monogamous relationship while working as a sex, love, and relationship coach, I have acquired valuable insight and a unique ability to share this information with my clients and audience in a way that hits home while leaving them feeling validated and whole.

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This call is all about exploring your goals, challenges, and the kind of support you’re looking for. It’s a chance for us to connect and see which of my programs might be the best fit for your needs. While this isn’t a coaching session, you’ll still come away with clarity about your next steps. Ellecia Paine Your Relationship Coach