Emotional Stability for Expansive Love
Because no amount of polyamory books, therapy sessions, communication scripts, or “I’m totally fine” smiles can override what your body does in the moment.
And if you’re like most of my clients, those moments hit fast:
The door closes as your partner leaves for a date
A new person enters the dynamic
A text message lands wrong
A feeling rises in your chest before you can even explain it
Suddenly your whole body is loud.
Your stomach tightens.
Your brain spirals.
Your self-trust disappears.
And you think, “Why can’t I just handle this?”
And honestly?
You can.
Your nervous system just needs help remembering how.
It was 10:42 PM on a Tuesday when I found myself shaking on the bathroom floor — again.
My partner was out on a date.
My brain knew I wasn’t in danger…
but my body was screaming like the world was ending.
I hated it.
I hated feeling fragile.
I hated feeling jealous.
I hated that my body didn’t match my values.
And then I realized something:
I wasn’t spiraling because I was bad at non-monogamy.
I was spiraling because no one had ever taught my nervous system how to feel safe when someone I loved walked out the door.
Once I learned to regulate my body instead of wrestling with my mind… everything changed.
That moment became the reason this program exists
Introducing:
This is not weekly coaching.
This is real-time holding in the moments where transformation actually happens.
You message when you’re activated, spiraling, confused, or overwhelmed.
I respond with tools, grounding, reframes, scripts, and soothing energy that helps your body come back to safety.
We’ll map your triggers and create a regulation plan that works for your wiring — not a generic checklist.
When you don’t know what to say, I help you say it with clarity, compassion, and confidence.
A Friday message from me helping you track your growth and stay gently accountable.
You’ll receive a personalized summary of your patterns and your next best step so you never lose momentum.
Stay calm when your partner dates
Stop jealousy spirals before they take over
Feel safe in your own body
Communicate without collapsing or over-explaining
Understand your emotions instead of fighting them
Build emotional stability that lasts
Experience non-monogamy without constant panic
Finally trust yourself to handle whatever comes up
Most clients feel a shift in 3–7 days.
Because healing doesn’t happen on a worksheet.
It happens in the two minutes after your partner walks out the door.
It happens in the moment your chest tightens.
It happens when you want to be honest… but your body says no.
This program meets you there — at the exact intersection of fear, activation, truth, and desire.
That’s why it works.
I’m Ellecia Paine, a non-monogamy coach, relationship nerd, and nervous system whisperer.
I help people who feel deeply (and sometimes too much) build emotional safety, communication skills, and real self-trust — so they can love expansively without losing themselves.
My work is body-based, compassion-led, trauma-aware, queer-affirming, kink-friendly, and deeply human.
If you want a coach who treats your feelings like they matter (because they do), you’re in the right place.