Your Non-monogamy Coach

Hey! I’m Ellecia, Your guide to the adventure of a lifetime… an open relationship.

I help adventurous people break the social conditioning of monogamy and learn how to navigate healthy alternative relationships with ethical non-monogamy, open relationships, polyamory, swinging, so that you can move through the challenges of jealousy, fear, anxiety, and insecurities in a way that strengthens your relationships, deepens your trust and communication, and leaves you feeling confident. 

I work with people who are done pretending.
Done performing, shrinking, or twisting themselves to fit someone else’s idea of what love should look like.

Whether you're navigating non-monogamy, reclaiming your desires, or untangling patterns of jealousy and insecurity—you’re not here for surface-level advice.
You’re here for transformation.

My job isn’t to hand you a script.
It’s to hand you the mic.

I coach folks who are ready to break free from outdated, rigid expectations of love, sex, and commitment—and finally feel safe being fully themselves.

Together, we dismantle the conditioning.
We meet your body where it actually is (not where you wish it was).
And we build a version of confidence that doesn’t crack under pressure.

This is nervous system-based, shame-liberating, desire-honoring work.
Because deep down, you don’t want rules—you want freedom with roots.
The kind of safety that lets you explore, expand, and express—all without apology.

My Transformational Coaching Package is a 6-month deep dive for people who are serious about rewiring their relational patterns and stepping into emotional and erotic confidence.
You’ll get one-on-one video sessions, personalized practices, and fierce, loving guidance to help you evolve—not into someone else—but back into yourself.

Ready to stop surviving and start living your love story?Let's do this together.

Let's Chat About It!

  • Free

Breath of Bliss

  • 15-day access

A free, live breathwork session for the humans navigating the messy, magical world of non-monogamy. Release fear. Soften jealousy. Return to your self-worth — one breath at a time.
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  • Free

Beyond Boundaries: Crafting Conversations in Ethical Non-Monogamy

  • 10-day access

Join me for a fun trip into the heart of polyamorous and non-monogamous dating. I'm Ellecia, your expert guide in the realm of ethical non-monogamy. This free workshop is more than an event; it's a transformative experience designed to equip you with essential tools for mastering the art of crucial conversations in your unique relationships.
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  • Free

Let's Talk About It: Your Guide to Ethically Non-monogamous Conversations

This guide is your secret weapon for fostering open communication, trust, and mutual understanding in the world of non-monogamous dating. Whether you're a seasoned polyamorist or just starting, these carefully crafted questions will help you spark discussions, set boundaries, and ensure everyone's on the same page.
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  • Free email delivery

The Connection Quickie Toolkit: 5-Minute Practices to Level Up Intimacy

The Connection Quickie Toolkit gives you five powerful 5-minute practices to deepen intimacy, boost emotional closeness, and stay connected—even in open or swinger dynamics. Includes a printable workbook, 7-day challenge tracker, and a bonus erotic exercise. Perfect for couples, polycules, or solo folx wanting more presence, appreciation, and turn-on in their relationships.
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  • Free

Clarity Chat

This call is all about exploring your goals, challenges, and the kind of support you’re looking for. It’s a chance for us to connect and see which of my programs might be the best fit for your needs. While this isn’t a coaching session, you’ll still come away with clarity about your next steps. Ellecia Paine Your Relationship Coach
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  • $169 or 2 monthly payments of $89

Getting It On In a Group - Intentional Threesomes, Fouresomes, & Moresomes

How to bang multiple people without blowing up your relationships. *Are you curious about how to talk to your partners about your desires and fantasies? *Wondering what topics you should be talking about? I give you a pretty solid list. *How about consent, negotiation, positions, safety, and finding partners? I’m going over this and more!
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  • $5,000 or 8 monthly payments of $625

Breaking Free From Monogamy: Evolutionary Coaching for a Non-Traditional Life in 6 Months

Ready to break free from the rules you never agreed to? Welcome to Breaking Free from Monogamy, a 6-month journey where you’ll redefine relationships on your terms. This is where we dismantle societal “shoulds” and create a love life that’s aligned with who you really are. You’re stepping into an authentic, expansive way of living—and I’m here to guide you every step of the way.
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  • $29

Don't Be a Jealous Potato: Finding the Roots of Your Jealousy in Your Open Relationship Workshop & Book Bundle

Jealousy can feel overwhelming and uncontrollable. But it doesn't have to be that way. Watch this one-hour masterclass, "Don't Be a Jealous Potato," and download the workbook to learn how to find the roots of your jealousy in your open relationship. We'll work together to identify and conquer those feelings so you can feel more confident and secure in your relationship 💪
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  • $222

VIP Telegram Support

I'm thrilled to offer you the chance to elevate your experience with a month of VIP Telegram support for just $222. With VIP Telegram support, you'll have direct access to me throughout the entire program. Got a question about a lesson? Need personalized advice on navigating a specific situation? Or simply want to share your triumphs and milestones? I'll be right there with you every step of the way! 💬
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  • $444 or 2 monthly payments of $222

Beyond Compare: Cultivating Self-Love and Unleashing Confidence for Non-Monogamous Women

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Are you a non-monogamous woman who craves inner peace, confidence, security, and clarity? Join this 4-week group coaching program, where we'll help you cultivate self-love, unleash embodied confidence, and embrace the joy of non-monogamous relationships. Get ready to feel secure, confident, sexy, and loved like never before!
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I’M SO EXCITED You're Here!

Hi! I’m Ellecia Paine, a sex, love, and relationship coach specializing in ethical non-monogamy and alternative relationship structures. I want to help you build the relationships you’ve always wanted. 

I love helping adventurous people break the social conditioning of monogamy and learn how to navigate healthy alternative relationship styles such as ethical non-monogamy, open relationships, polyamory and swinging. I'll help you move through the challenges like jealousy, fear, anxiety, and insecurities in a way that strengthens your relationships, deepens trust and communication, and leaves you feeling confident and secure.

I believe in courageously challenging the status quo and empowering people to create relationships that work for the real people in those relationships. Throughout the past 9 years living in an ethically non-monogamous relationship while working as a sex, love, and relationship coach, I have acquired valuable insight and a unique ability to share this information with my clients and audience in a way that hits home while leaving them feeling validated and whole.
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Testimonials

 
Ellecia has a deep well of lived experience that is invaluable for couples thinking of opening up their relationship. No matter what we brought to session, Ellecia totally got what was coming up for each of us and helped us understand each other's experiences on a deeper level. She also gave us simple, super-effective tools to help us build trust, better communicate, and to regulate our nervous systems when intense emotions arose. Finally, her light-hearted and joyous presence made it so we actually wanted to do the practices and show up for sessions! 

Ann H.

I learned to not push past my own boundaries, but to feel into what feels aligned for me. To slow down and to feel more comfortable in the uncertain. To recognize that there's not an end destination but relationships are fluid and to learn how to build safety in that fluidity. 

Conquering Jealousy Client

anonymous

She taught me so much about myself. Reassured me when the whole world around me felt shaky. She helped me sit across from my husband and gaze into him for a long long time, and that was the most exquisite feeling.

We found our way back to our center and Ellecia Paine was equally our guide, friend and coach. Please call her. It will improve your relationships.

Jennie

I  did 6 weeks of relationship coaching with Ellecia Paine earlier this year.  It was amazing. She really helped me understand the origins of a lot of my negative thoughts around relationships and heal some deep wounds.

The work empowered me to love myself, know that I am enough, and step into the qualities that allowed me to pursue the meaningful romantic relationships that I’ve so deeply desired for so long.

I cannot possibly recommend her highly enough to express my gratitude for the work she led me through ❤️

Jessica L.

Ellecia is an incredibly talented, intuitive, and sincere coach. From start to finish, she challenged us to dig deep, connecting to and understanding our inner selves.

Her uplifting, positive, and fun personality makes her easy to open up to, and the lessons and tools she uses have taken our communication to the next level. As a result, we are living the out of the box relationship of our dreams. Much love!

Aaron Chaffee

Hiring Ellecia to guide you through the ENM world can be life changing. Not only do you explore the whys and emotions connected to why you feel the way you do but you will also learn of possibilities of what your life can look like and the tools to get there.

My husband and I have a much more clear idea of where each of our ENM journey is leading and how to connect deeply and get there together. We have been together 8 years and we have never felt closer and more free in our choices.

Tavia